Katherine A (Kat) Forsythe

Sexuality Educator, Relationship and Intimacy Coach , Get a Second Wind

Kat Forsythe has great news for us! She has worked within the field of human sexuality for over 25 years and is here to tell us that great sex is ours to be had at 50+, 60+, 70+, 80+ and even 90+. Our need for touch and sexual experience is something we never loose.

The name of her company gives “Get a Second Wind” new meaning. The most common thing she hears is, “I feel ugly, old and unattractive. How can I possibly have sex at this age?” She absolutely loves her work because she is in the business of changing peoples lives; showing them how to be powerful, happy and sexually alive again.

Kat talks freely about the topic most people over a “certain age” rarely discuss. And, she has the credentials to do so. She has a Masters in Social Work with a specialty in human sexuality – concentrating on midlife and beyond; is a sex educator, and relationship and intimacy coach; has taught and developed sex education curriculum for adolescents, adults, physicians and surgeons. And, more.

What, you may ask, drew her as a young woman to seriously study this field?

Kat has always been fascinated by the field of human sexuality and it has its roots in her young adulthood. She watched a friend struggle with an unplanned pregnancy that almost ended her life. As a result of watching this powerful drama unfold, she vowed to dedicate herself to educating people about sexuality.

While in grad school in her 30s, Kat attended a lecture given by Dr. Richard Cross, a pioneer in sex and aging, to a group of medical students. In his 80s himself, he said, “You have no idea how great sex can be after 80!” You can just imagine the response from the students, but Kat found this compelling and worthy of further study. This lecture set her on the course of what would be her life’s work.

So, let’s talk sex with Kat!

What are the biggest challenges for women 50+?

1. Finding a partner or revving up the current partner.
2. Physical changes that happen as a result of age
3. Negative self image
4. Difficulty communicating with a partner about sexual needs.
5. High risk of infection from STIs, especially HIV. (You need to know how to ask if a new partner is “clean” and stay safe at any age.)

5 most important things for a great sex life:

1. You are in the prime of your life: Have a great time! There are very few reasons, other than what’s going on in your head, to deny yourself a great sex life – in whatever way is best for you.
2. Having sex is good for you. It’s good for your hearth, wards off depression, cleanses your system, and strengthens your pelvic floor, among other benefits.
3. It’s recession proof! It’s FUN and FREE!
4. It increases your self confidence and self esteem.
5. Affirms us as beautiful, sensual women.

What does it take to have a great sexual encounter?

1. Identify what you want out of it. It’s your body to enjoy. Own it!
2. Expect intimacy; think about pleasuring, not performing.
3. Be prepared. Carry condoms and lubricant.
4. Communicate; tell your partner what you like and don’t like .
5. Understand how very nervous men are at this age about performance and being judged.
6. Go in with your eyes wide open; forget those darned romance novels
7. Keep your sense of humor. Don’t take yourself so seriously. Be able to laugh in the bedroom.

This is a HUGE subject and lots of fun to discuss with someone who really knows what they are talking about. I’ve hit some of the highlights, but if you want more information, have a problem you’d like to discuss, are dating again at mid-life, or simply want to put a spark back into your long-term relationship, she’s but a phone call away. She’s a blast to talk to!

www.GetaSecondWind.com
415-702-9544
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And, here’s a great video where Kat gets candid. Best Sex Life after 50!