Who says that you can’t hurry love? If you diligently follow this plan, you should be on track to celebrate the 2010 holidays with someone special.
1) Resolve to view life with a “glass half full” attitude. Once a day, remind yourself of the positives in your life and take time to appreciate them. Create an affirmation that says “I am attractive and I bring love into my life.” Express yourself in an upbeat, self-assured manner. Studies show that the number one thing that attracts men is confidence!
2) Be realistic. There is no secret location where attractive, available men breathlessly wait for women who are seeking commitment. So, give everyone you meet a chance. If you believe in Hollywood’s love-at-first-sight myth, you could derail the most promising meeting. Most midlife guys don’t have movie-star looks, their average height is 5’8”, and they are often shyer than they were in their youth. Yet, once you get to know them, you can fall in love with their wit, the sparkle in their eye, and their kindness and humor. Most are seeking a romantic, caring, long-term companionship with an empathetic, compatible woman who takes care of herself. Contrary to myth, most prefer to be with women in their own age range.
3) Look your best all the time. Wear makeup and flattering clothes whenever you leave the house. Midlife men tell me that they are attracted to women who have a sense of style.
4) Use the A-D plan for meeting new men everyday.
A - Make eye contact, smile and talk to three new men every day—whether it’s at the grocery store, at a café, or on the street.
B - Create a profile on an online dating site, and feel free to initiate a one-time contact with promising men.
C - Take a class, such as social dancing or martial arts, where you can meet men in a casual setting.
D - Use social outlets to meet men. Attend local singles events—to discover them, Google the words “single” and your hometown. Meet men at lectures, business networking events, and parties. Tell your friends that you’d like to be fixed up. Open yourself up to meeting men everywhere you go—online or not! Be open to men of all ages, shapes and sizes.
5) Create an attitude of abundance by dating 3 men at a time until you have decided that you have found the one for you. Don’t just settle for the first one who comes along. Don’t become focused on just one man until he asks you for an exclusive, long-term commitment.
Working this plan will help you to find the man to spend the rest of your life with—starting now!
