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Betty Frain has been a Marriage and Family Therapist for 30 years, with special expertise in family dynamics and recovery from trauma. In addition to writing for 50+Fabulous, Betty is in private practice in Petaluma, California. She has joined with Gail Galette, MFT and Tawny Martin, MFT to form The Adult, Child Therapy Center of the North Bay. She also conducts family weekends to support parents and their grown children as they move through impasses and set new goals for family life.
Dr. Frain was called to New York City to be part of the Critical Incident Stress Debriefing Team to counsel trauma victims in the aftermath of the 9/11 attack. She currently was called to work as a civilian consultant with the military to counsel children and family members traumatized by loved-ones deployment to Iraq and Afghanistan.
Based on their book, Becoming a Wise Parent for Your Grown Child: How to Give Love and Support Without Meddling, Betty and her co-author Eileen Clegg, were interviewed for the DVD of the hit movie Failure to Launch, starring Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew McConaughey. Their work has also appeared in numerous print media. Betty and Eileen are currently working on a new book about human resilience.
She consulted in the development of a game for fathers and daughters called: Communication by Mindamics (available at www.thecommunicationgame.com).
A frequent speaker, she has given presentations and workshops nationwide. She is a member of both the California and the American Associations of Marriage and Family Therapists.
Betty lives in California’s Sonoma County and is a single parent of grown children who are thriving in their individual lives.
Visit Betty at http://www.drbettyfrain.com.
Betty’s Columns
How to help your kids and grandkids funnel their frustration with our global mess and empower them to make positive changes here at home and abroad. More...
Do you need to make friends with a family member’s or friend’s spouse who has treated a loved one poorly but has made significant changes in their own lives to enable them to now treat your loved one well? Our wise Dr. Betty tackles this complex issue. More...
Is a loved one estranged? Dr. Betty shares many different ways to heal and reconnect. More...
Dr. Betty shares great ideas for more personal, meaningful, fun and less expensive holiday gifts. More...
You can do work you love…against all odds! More...
If anything about your world scares you right now, do not miss Betty’s column this month! Sage advice from one of our nation’s best. More...
Are the kids moving back home…with their kids? How to stay sane and maintain your own space! More...
You've just spent a fortune on your child's education. Yet, they've made what you consider a really poor choice about their new career. What about their future? More...
When the kids take off for parts unknown, it may be time to dust off your own dreams More...
Is procrastination negatively affecting your children? More...
Are you grappling with the decision of whether to invite your adult children and their family to live with you until they get back on their fee? If so, better read with Dr. Betty has to say! More...
Are you at the end of your rope because of family commitments? Betty share what you need to do to renew and reinvigorate. More...
Sometimes “living your vision” meets with raised eyebrows and negativity from those we love. Dr. Betty shares her wisdom. More...
Losing a child is devastating to the entire family and everyone grieves in their own unique way. Dr. Betty shares insights into this difficult time. More...
How to help your kids through a money crunch! Parenting Adult Children through Tough Economic Times More...
Share Your Appreciation with Your Kids: Here’s How! More...
When your self-esteem takes a dive at mid-life, there IS something you can do about it! More...
OK, so you fear you taught your kids to be perfectionists. There IS something you can do now to help, even if they are all grown up! More...
What if your kids think you are going nuts as you re-design your life?! More...
We live in such uncertain times with the shaky economy, high gas prices, exorbitant credit card fees, and high unemployment. What advice can we give our kids as they graduate to start their own lives? More...
What do you do when your child questions their career choice. More...
Has your own depression adversely affected your children's lives? Dr. Betty gives insight into this troubling problem. More...
What to do when your high school graduate wants to defer college and travel. More...
My 30 year-old daughter and her two young children moved in with me after a rather traumatic divorce. They have been living here for almost a year and a half. I have been glad to help out, but now I feel exasperated. I need my peace and privacy back. More...
Dr. Betty answers the question: When my children were little, I wasn’t emotionally available to them because of a demanding job and being overwhelmed as a single mom. Now my, 28 year-old, son is too busy to see me. I feel a big gap between us. How can I connect with him and build our family ties? More...
Dr. Betty answers the question: I have read in various magazines that this generation of young people has an “entitlement syndrome” and that they are refusing to grow up, but I believe that our 20 and 30 year olds have it harder than we did when we were striking out on our own. Do you have any suggestions or thoughts on this issue? More...
Dr. Betty answers the question: My grown children have been brought up in affluence. I fear that I have spoiled them. Do you have some ideas on how we can educate them about the importance of giving back to our communities and to help those less fortunate? More...
Dr. Betty answers the question: I finally have the joy of living in my quiet house alone. Now, my middle son wants to return home. I am feeling conflicted and a bit guilty that I don’t want to give up my privacy and share my home with my son. I want to be supportive of him; do you have any thoughts about this situation? More...
Dr. Betty addresses the troubling issue of reestablishing relationships with adult children of divorce. More...
Dr. Betty answers the question: We are planning a family reunion this summer and want it to be a memorable event that will increase our family connection. We had a retreat three years ago that did not increase our bond due to the interference of cell phones, computers and computer games. Do you have some tips for our family? More...
It has become common today for 24-30+ year olds to have difficulty launching themselves into their own independent lives. Often, the most loving of parents have unwittingly nurtured this situation by offering too much help. How can we empower our kids to move on? More...
The phenomenon of grown children living at home through their 20s, 30s and beyond has become so commonplace it is now part of pop culture with films such as “Failure to Launch” and the sitcom “Free Ride.” More...